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One of the challenges of moving into a new country as a couple is learning how to navigate the different changes and the obstacles that may stand in your way as you gradually begin to adapt to your new lives in an unfamiliar environment. There is common knowledge that women are more likely to adapt to changes faster than men especially when children engage in the change because of their maternal instincts which stimulate their sense of curiosity to find diverse ways to help their children cope with changing situations. Change can be a huge benefit for your marriage and a fantastic opportunity for your family to form the needed connection but may be missing due to the hustle and bustle of your lives in the past.Even though a new environment may bring a less chaotic and better life but that can also bring its own challenges too. Therefore, you must all learn new ways of doing things and adapt to changing situations too. Ask for help One of the challenges facing many couples in their ...

Captain Ben Gbulie played a key role in Nigeria’s first military coup of January 1966. He is one of the few surviving officers who plotted that coup. He put in prison when the coup failed, went to war on the side of Biafra, survived a gun wound and ended up in prison again at the end of the war. He wrote a book on the war but today tells us more about the war and speaks from his Trans Ekulu residennce in inEnugu on Gowon, Ojukwu, Obasanjo, Yar’Adua, his position on the new agitation for Biafra and more. It’s a weekend delight. Enjoy it. MY TRAINING My name is Ben Gbulie, I am from Nimo in Njikoka local government area of Amanbra state. I joined the Nigeria army in March 1960; I was one of the pioneer trainees at Nigeria Military Training College, NMTC, in Kaduna in 1960. By July 1960 we completed the course and by September 1960, just before independence, those of us who were selected to go abroad were already in England. I was there at Mons Officers cadet school at Aldershot preparin...

Last week’s article started with one of my favourite phrases on corruption: ‘ identifying problems of Nigeria without mentioning corruption is corruption itself’. This is because virtually every Nigerian is seen by foreigners with the optical prism of corruption. The precarious state of our economy is believed to be more closely tied to the high level of corruption than the high level of insecurity or a major by-product of the two coupled with a low level of productivity. Again, last week’s article was tied to corruption in the public sector but most parts were unintentionally devoted to corruption at the lower rung of the public sector, probably because corruption in high places is normally publicised through many media channels. Or, probably because some of those nefarious activities at those lower levels are taken for granted as immaterial. Why, for example, should the pilfering or vandalisation of public buses by drivers be considered corruption? Or, why should printing and issuan...

Revelations have started to be made on how Nigeria got itself into the current high level of insecurity in the country. Abubakar Kawu Baraje, a former chieftain of the ruling All Progressives Congress, (APC) on Monday traced the origin of the current insecurity in the country to the influx of Fulani from neighboring countries like Sierra Leone, Mali, Senegal, Niger and Chad brought into the country for election purposes in 2015. He said this in Ilorin as part of activities to mark his 70th birthday anniversary He also backed self-help initiatives of the South West governors, stating that re­sponses of Sunday Igboho to the herdsmen menace were necessary because the Federal Government failed in its prin­cipal responsibility to secure life and property On the recent moves by some ruling party, All Progressives Congress (APC) governors to woo former president, Good­luck Jonathan, Baraje said that the ruling party was only wast­ing its time. Baraje, who once served as the party’s nation...

Nigerians are incapable of discerning what their problems are. Nigerians are not able to reflect and reason out to understand the size and shape of their problem. This bothers on obstructive ancestral worldviews carried over from their African ways of thought and deployment which in turn inflicts an imbecilic disposition on how they advance their wellbeing. This could mean that a large significant section of the country presents with this affliction, thereby infecting the rest with the consequences of this situation. Apparent Issues that signify that Nigeria’s deployment as a Nation is Chaotic: 1. The Nigerian government is set up in such a way that is not functional to the wellbeing development of their people. This is because the aspirations of the people are largely uncultivated, therefore it manifests a National Objective vacuum which makes it difficult for any leader who eventually emerges to provide quality leadership. 2. Education system of Nigeria is not functional to the peo...

The state of any society can have a significant impact on marriage and the family setting, and an economic crisis can cause untold hardship leaving many couples facing financial and emotional challenges too. While some couples will continue to hope for the best in their difficult circumstances, others have taken bold and costly steps and entertained the possibility of relocating abroad leaving their careers, friends, and loved ones behind. Facing uncertainty The dynamics of the present day have compelled couples to think creatively if they want to achieve the kind of lifestyle they have often dreamed of for their families. Even though migrating may sound like the perfect step to take when couples are desperately left with no option but to take their own future into their own hands, this decision can also make or break their marital relationship if not well considered as it takes a lot of sacrifice and dedication to move to a whole new country. When you think of the sacrifices you ar...