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There is a general perception affirming that money is a huge contributor to most failing and broken marriages today and many couples will agree. However, many marriages have also failed due to one person’s lack of interest and ability to serve the other even in desperate situations. Several simple factors are key to building a successful and fulfilling marriage and they also form the basis by which couples are required to grow together and meet each other’s needs. Serving is selfless Serving your spouse is a selfless act that brings greater accomplishments and a huge sense of humility into your marriage. Serving your partner also means that you can strike the right balance between understanding your own struggles and being considerate of your partner’s weaknesses too. Serving is understanding your partner’s present situation and his/her capacity to cope and showing compassion while offering her the necessary support too. An act of selfless service is waiting patiently for the right t...

QUOTE 1 It is fallacious to think you can only build wealth by working for yourself. James Dimon, the Chairman/CEO of JP Morgan, has been in that role since 2005, although the bank is not his. He was appointed like any other employee and is worth $1.4 billion today (about N600 billion). He achieved this by dint of hard work. QUOTE 2 Preparing for the years after work is for you to realise that you start preparing for retirement from the FIRST salary you collect while working. Many should realise today that they will spend long years in retirement than the number of years they spend working. WHY DID YOU CHOOSE YOUR CAREER PATH? I cannot vividly remember why I took the decision, but I was influenced by many factors, one of which was my background. I wasn’t born with a silver spoon and I started very early in life being responsible, not only to my immediate family but to my parents as well. The fear of failure was a factor. You may be very good at what you are doing. Your success w...

Insecurity is one of the biggest challenges in many marriages today with more men than women feeling more insecure than ever before due to financial incapability, lack of self-love, jealousy, past failures, or feeling worthless and undeserving of love. Living with an insecure partner can be a distressing experience that can also lead to a toxic relationship undermining your love for him. Finding a soul mate is a great accomplishment in marriage; however, not everyone is fortunate enough to find that man or woman they are destined to spend the rest of their lives with. A spouse who is not prepared to prioritise you and your marriage above all things within reason is insecure about your future together. An insecure partner has a vague perception of marriage, and the commitment is based on their own selfish interests alone. Possessive and control Insecurity can be presented through jealousy which often triggers coercive control and intimidation of the other spouse. Most possessive men ...

Example "It is like a wage earner eating lunch every day at Hilton, wearing crocodile skin shoes and with frequent flyer miles on British Airways, but living in rented accommodation with all his children thrown out of school for not having paid school fees"

British Prime Minister aspirant, Kemi Badenoch, has knocked Nigerian politicians, as she announced her bid for the top office. Her comments have been garnering reactions on TwitterNG on Wednesday. Badenoch is of Nigerian descent. She said, “I’m ambitious for our party and our country. I chose to become a conservative MP to serve and I chose this country because here, I can be free and I can be everything that I wanted to be. “I grew up in Nigeria and I saw firsthand when politicians are in it for themselves. When they use public money as their piggybanks, when they promise the earth and they pollute not just the earth but the whole political atmosphere with their failure to serve others. “I came to Britain, determined to make my way in a country where hard work and honesty can take you anywhere.” - - - The Punch

Values are the key influences that guide people’s behaviours and choices giving them a sense of self that is important for their happiness and wellbeing. Some values are inherited from the family line which can exhibit similar behaviour patterns from your spouse and his/her parents. Certain inherited values have ruined many marriages due to the couples’ lack of awareness of making reasonable adjustments necessary to compromise and balance their individual values. However, when two become one in marriage, the oneness has the capacity to love and support each other and begin to see things not only from one person’s perspective. Entitlement can be misleading A spouse’s values can make him/her feel entitled while always craving to be the centre of attention and attraction. A man who has always been treated differently among his other siblings and never allowed to own up to his own mistakes will live his adult life feeling entitled and disheartened if disregarded or neglected. This feeli...

"They will either pity you because you are coming from Africa…in fact one day a man was looking at me, a pastor, a Christian, and he started crying. I said, “ah, why are you crying, is there any problem?” He was a 70 year-old man, and he said: “God loves you anyway. God loves you. When we get to heaven, we will understand.” I asked: “What?” He replied: “Don’t be angry at God that he created you black, don’t be angry at Him, forgive Him…we will understand when we get to heaven.” That’s why he was crying. I thought he was crying because of a tragedy that happened to his family. They feel pity for you that you are black, when you now begin to come out to want to teach them, they become offended. “We are supposed to be teaching and helping you, and be giving you a hand, you now want to usurp our position, aggrandising upon yourself the things that you don’t deserve.” They now begin to tell you to know your place, to sit down. They now see a black pastor that has built an organisation ...